Take Care

Friday morning, 16-year-old Maren Sanchez was stabbed to death in her high school in Milford, Connecticut. My heart goes out to the whole community, especially my friends there with high school aged children. I cannot begin to imagine the pain you are feeling.

There are many articles about how to talk to your children at times of tragedy. This is instead about how to take care of your adult self at incomprehensible times like these. As flight attendants remind us, adults have to put their oxygen masks on first and then their children’s. So while you’re comforting your children, make time to soothe and comfort yourself so that you can continue to be there for them in the days and weeks to come.

What soothes you may vary but here are some ideas to start.

  • Move. Go for a walk, run, swim, dance, or spend some time on your yoga mat. Our issues are in our tissues so work them out, sweat them out, before they turn you to stone.
  • Talk. Share your fears, sorrows, and frustrations with another adult. Comfort each other.
  • Meditate. You are not your thoughts. Letting go of those thoughts for even a few minutes can give you a moment of peace.
  • Pray. Talk to God, in a whisper or a shout, and then listen for an answer. I heard recently that God is not in these awful events but in our response to them. How will you respond?
  • Journal. Pour your heart out onto the safety of the page. See if that lightens your load even a little.
  • Touch. Hug the people you love. Cuddle your pets. When words are not enough, touch can be the bridge.
  • Breathe. Deeply breathe in peace. Breathe out the stress and pain.

Know that you are not alone. We care about you, no matter how much distance separates us.

Be well.





  1. This is a great post! Thank you for these helpful suggestions. It is important that we take care of ourselves. If we don’t, then we have nothing of value to offer others who are in need. We need to take the time to fill ourselves up, so to speak, not only for our own health, but also so we have something to give to others.

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